What am I going to do for my birthday? I have no idea. My girlfriend doesn’t have any time off so I don’t really want to go to Mexico to celebrate without her. That’s a switch, huh? Sure, I have traveled alone lots of times and maybe I will do it again. But to celebrate a birthday, I would want to be with her. But, why wait until my birthday to go out of town? I have a buddy that’s going out of town this weekend and even though he didn’t ASK me to go with him and his girl, I may just tag along anyway. But my girlfriends question is why don’t I do more with her that’s outside of my normal routine of going to my bar? And then when an opportunity comes up for me to go out of town with a buddy, being around my bar isn’t nearly as important. Well, timing is a big part of it. I would have loved to have gone out of town this past weekend but it was Halloween weekend and I needed to judge the big costume contest. And even though she was off work, we did spend the entire weekend together, well, you know the rest…

Which brings me to this little nugget of observation that I just realized…

It seems to me that girls measure love and caring by the amount of TIME that we spend together. Or more importantly, the amount of time that us guys go out of our way to spend with our girls. In other words, when I say, “baby, come by the bar and hang out with me here” doesn’t count. I think it used to count a while, but the longer we are together, the less it counts. To me, “together is together,” right. Together means just that. Seems logical to me, huh? Well, to a girl, and this is not an indictment on my current girlfriend, because I thank God that someone out there actually WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH ME…but my point is, the more time that passes by in a relationship, the more a girl is going to crave the “One on One” time. And, I think guys may operate in just the opposite way. We think together is whatever brings our two bodies in the same general geographical area at the same approximate time is together time. Right fellas? If you are in the kitchen and we are in the living room watching the game, that’s together time! If I happen to see you at a stop light and I blow the horn and you look at me and wave, technically, that was some together time! If you are on the phone in the bedroom talking to a girlfriend and we are outside washing the car in the driveway, that’s together time. And speaking of “Doing stuff,” I think that’s how guys show and gauge our love for our ladies…To us, it comes down to how much “stuff” we are doing for you. If we paint the bathroom, that’s love baby! If we pick up dog food on the way home, that’s love baby! And if we stop by the mall and pick up a little something sexy for you to put on later, WOW, That’s real love baby! We are so different but we all want the same thing. We just communicate it in two different languages. Trying to communicate to the ones we love is almost like traveling to Russia. The ladies in our lives speak this (foreign) “TIME” language that guys don’t speak. Us guys speak “DO” language that you ladies don’t speak. Y’all want us to speak time and we don’t speak your language. We want you to understand our “Do” language but you don’t understand us. But somehow, when you need us to stop by the grocery store and get toilet paper on the way home, we DO it because we love you! I guess we both need translators…